Nature Is Designed to Make Us Let Go

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Hindu philosophy recommends under the Ashram system that human life be divided into four periods. The goal of each period was the ideal fulfillment of each of the four consecutive stages of life.

  • Brahmacharya or Student Stage
  • Grihastha or Householder Stage
  • Vanaprastha or Hermit Stage
  • Sannyasa or Ascetic Stage

These stages were designed to allow a man to live a full life according to the laws of nature.

It suddenly dawned on me that every law of nature and every circumstance are designed for detachment. This is the oldest philosophical lesson and never too late to learn. Clouds come and go, the sun rises and sets, earth moves, seasons change, there is birth and death at all times.

Looking back, after the birth of a child, the ability to walk independently leads to detachment from carrying the baby, student life creates gradual detachment through education and adolescence is the start of the child learning to become responsible for one’s own physical and emotional well being. Similarly, middle age is the start of Vanaprastha stage where one needs to start learning to shift focus once again.

To flow with these changes effortlessly, letting go is the only answer. What prevents us from letting go? There is limited awareness and focus on spiritual knowledge. We learn how to achieve, earn money, about the physical body and world of objects. There is negligible space given to another subject - how best to apply all this information to our life in the most efficient and effortless manner.

Why is there limited focus? Is that again a play of nature? We go through success and failure, joy and sorrow; and only when we are pushed against the wall, do we truly seek. Till then, we live in a deep slumber and keep fighting with ourselves. We create chaos in our life and then we look for ways to understand it or unravel it. I am amused, is that a way of feeling occupied and important?

There are rules to every sport and sharing spiritual knowledge too is another sport to be played. Like any other field of achievement or education, mastery is acquired through consistent practice and by playing with the rules. Every body of knowledge is a teaching that forms the pillars of life and spiritual knowledge is the foundation on which these pillars need to be constructed. There is limited significance given to the subject of spirituality due to ignorance, beliefs and perceptions. If we were to understand and regard spirituality as the science of thoughts and acquire knowledge like any other scientific study, our attitude towards this subject would change and so would our life.

A teacher or a coach has the ability to draw out the potential from people and help them grow into independent individuals. It’s all about serving one another. Sports coaches work with people to become better sportsmen and life coaches work with people to live their life better.

As a coach, I use the knowledge of spirituality to be a catalyst for people to feel empowered and achieve their dreams. My dream is about seeing people feel fulfilled with their life, a cricketers dream is to inspire and entertain people, a doctors dream is to heal people and bankers dream is to make people financially empowered. I too got caught in this play and thought that I had a special gift to improve the world. Without the other gifts of knowledge that I acquired through life, I would not be able to live this life. The joke is back on me. I started with wanting to become free and I ended up getting entrapped in the sense of power of knowledge that was to free me. All I need to do is live life authentically and celebrate every moment of life.


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