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Last few months, I was just restless. I was restless because there was nothing significant to be restless about. Most of my life I had been busy proving to the world; then I was busy proving to myself. Now, I hit a zone where I felt I had no reason to keep trying to prove. Our mind is so attuned to constant action or constant flow of agitation that it is not accustomed to having less to worry over. When we are busy with some significant project we feel useful and recognized. A new dilemma appeared for me having progressed to making the mind less dependent from external stimuli. What next?

After many months of agitation, I accepted that I didn’t know what was the cause for agitation and just parked the thought aside. The fact that I stopped worrying and looking for an answer, was the best thing that I did. Recently, the answer just showed up -- ‘Let Be’. I had to learn to live life in the present, be in the present and enjoy the moment, learn to love life holistically and just ‘be happy’.

Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be - Abraham Lincoln

We may know that happiness is a state of mind but to discover the ability to shift the state of mind with speed and actually see it become real is something else. Recently, I made a commitment to tell myself every morning to be happy. Having simply enforced that thought into the mind has been of amazing consequence. Interestingly, whenever I digress from this feeling or thinking and fall into the trap of sympathy, anger, righteousness or such, I am finding that the power of mind kicks in to remind me that I have made a commitment to be happy.

To love and enjoy life, we have to be grateful for life rather than take it for granted. The insatiable wanting for more and more normally occupies the mind with complaints, fears, sense of struggle and hardship that there is limited or no space for gratitude. Although we may have abundance, the mind habitually keeps yearning to possess, to win, to succeed and fill gaps. We are conditioned with the anxiety to be relevant, to be recognized and worry so that life feels useful. We worry because we feel comfortable having something to worry about. Then, ironically, we complain that life is full of worries.

I believe we fear that if we feel grateful, we will stop working, stop being ambitious, stop elevating ourselves. Laziness emanates from a sense of incompleteness and lack of gratitude. Loving our life and seeing this life as a divine gift, would impose a responsibility to value our life and thereby value every element of our life – our thoughts, our body, our work and our relationships. Thoughts do creep in time and again that disrupt this state of mind. It requires constant practice and reminder to keep recreating the thought of happiness.

When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears - Anthony Robbins


Ashu as my executive coach has had a profound impact on my Professional & Personal life. Ashu's tools are simple conversations & powerful questioning, which makes you dig deep and reflect about ourselves in the context of the ecosystem we all exist. I have a lot to thank Ashu for helping me in my journey to be a better "me" & look forward to my continued association with her.

Vivek Venkatachalam

MD, IOT Infrastructure & Energy Services Ltd

...having Ashu as your coach is a God send. Because, Ashu's primary focus is not limited to addressing the immediate areas of concern but to transform you inside out. She helps you (if you let her) discover and reinforce your own core beliefs, values and approaches. Her approach is to focus on you such that you can grow across all dimensions, making you capable of reaching the "here" seamlessly… and empowering you to reach the future "theres" as well!

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VP & Country Head Ansaldo STS

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CEO & Country Head India, Investment & Corporate Bank, Barclays Capital India

Ashu has worked as a coach with my team on a few occasions to help improve teamwork and team dynamics. Working with a group of type A investment bankers can be pretty tough. Ashu was able to draw out the team to share their views openly in a constructive manner.

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MD & Regional Head - Origination and Client Coverage & Co-Head - Wholesale Banking, South Asia, Standard Chartered Bank

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